Many, many years, every time a New Year knocked on my door I made a New Year resolutions list. I was taking a pen and paper and start writing goals down.
- Read 4 books per month
- Visit six new countries
- Do at least one good thing per day
- Be closer to your family
- Call your grandmother every evening
- Make new friends
- Create a blog
- Do your own, perfect Lightroom presets
- Exercise more
- Be nicer
- Smile more
- Save more
- Spend less
- Live life to the fullest
- Get more organized
- Learn a new skill
- Eat healthier
- Make your own business
- Find a new hobby
- Become a morning person
My list was endless. These are just the first 20, not necessarily in that order.
I wanted to change myself. Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t want a totally new person, but if I was given the possibility to edit my life like I edit my Instagram shots in Lightroom- I would have taken than that opportunity gladly!
But guess what? It’s New Year, New Goals, New Me time again. Scratch that right now!
I often caught myself disappointed when I saw something on that dam list that I wasn’t able to achieve. The funny thing is that I, I was putting pressure on myself. I made that list of “this is how a successful 2018” should look like. I wish I could talk to “me back then”.
Well, at 32 years old I say enough is enough.
This year my resolution is only to have a balanced life and stop the resolution nonsense.
Funny thing, I made that list so big that I didn’t even have time to actually let life happen. Don’t get me wrong, I will still make plans and goals. I am a planning freak. But I will also be ok when things go unexpectedly and not quite as planned. No more drama queen.
“Perfect” will take a break from my life. As a recovering perfectionist, I can tell you for sure that no good can come from the need to get it perfect; at least not all the time. Real life is far from a perfect Instagram feed.
I could also say that perfectionism is the opposite of being gentle and kind to yourself. Perfectionism can stop you from ever starting something. It easy to just not do something at all because it won’t be perfect. Just drop that at the door and move on with the best you can do under the circumstances you have.
I would rather accept life exactly like it is, with good and bad, enjoy the ups, accept the downs and try to learn my lesson from them.
What are your resolutions this year?
XO Stories of a Brunette